To be in relationships and to be loved is great. To be single and love oneself is also great. Ance is one of those brave enough to admit publicly that life without relationships is perfectly OK, but it can also be terribly lonely. Does she still believe in love?

Love is…

When you don`t lie when saying “I love you”.

Love isn`t…

When you respond to “I love you” with “Me too” just out of politeness and to not make the other one feel bad.

I think, someone could fall for me…

I`m not as unstable as the real estate market at the moment.

But I could fall for someone, if…

I like that guy, it’s that simple.

Stupid misbelief about love is…

You can`t break up if you don`t feel good in your relationships but still love your partner. You can. It just means that you love yourself just a little bit more (and that`s how it`s supposed to be).

It`s good to be single because…

You can save some money as you don`t have to buy that many groceries, and also have to pay less for the household utilities.

But sometimes I miss…

Regular sex.

Since I`m single, I`ve understood that…

I have no idea how to make that lamp in the fridge work again, so I won`t be scared in the kitchen alone in the dark.

I am thankful to my ex for…

A beautiful 6 years together and the fact that I spent them with one of the most amazing people I know.

I imagine The One…

Always naked.

Going to dates is….

Like job interviews, but with cocktails.

Dating nowadays is tiring because…

The web gives us too many options to choose from, and you want to try almost all of them.

One thing I`ve understood about relationships…

Don`t jump into the first one just because you`ve been lonely for some time. Get to know, evaluate, go on dates, kiss.

Loneliness and self-sufficiency…

The difference lies in your inner feeling. You`re self-sufficient if you feel comfortable with yourself and the fact that you`re single. You must have this feeling even if you`re together with someone, because relationships with yourself are the most important you can have. Loneliness, on the other hand, feels more like a melancholic sadness. In these cases you don`t want to be alone but you always feel like that, even when you`re surrounded by a crowd.

Searching for love or believing in destiny? I think…

Both are fine, because the result matters. Maybe you don`t have to prioritise it, as you won`t be able to pay for heating with an orgasm, but it`s your own choice to be dating routinely or just be chill about that.

One love for a lifetime…

Is possible, if this love goes towards yourself. You might think someone is the love of your life but you have to remember that you can`t push someone to fall in or out of love, therefore you can only rely on your own.